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Do you know that hurting a narcissist emotionally isn’t as hard as you might have thought about it? They might seem unbreakable and untouchable because they think highly of themselves.
But don’t worry anymore, in this article, you will know how to hurt and break the hearts of a narcissist.
They are good at making people inferior, and less valuable and also lose their self-confidence around people. That is why you must learn to beat them at their own game and show that you too can play this one.
Hurting a narcissist is simple. All you have to do is hurt them where it hurts the most, which is their ego.
They want people to feed on their ego and receive the attention they desire, whether good or bad. They don’t mind as long as it increases their awareness. At this point you will have to do the opposite which is not giving them what they deserve, making a mockery of them, and showing that you are better than them.
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Is it possible to break a narcissist’s heart?
Yes, it is possible. A narcissistic person is a human being with feelings, and their feelings are what makes them think they are better than everyone in the room. They crave more publicity and awareness anywhere they go; they want to be the most talked about even in their relationships.
So, the best way to break a narcissist’s heart is not to give them the attention and admiration they crave. Loving yourself more and paying attention to another person will make a narcissist feel broken in their hearts.
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How to hurt a narcissist
There are several ways you can hurt a narcissist emotionally and make them feel less of themselves. If you are reading this article, it is because you may have a narcissistic husband, wife, or friend who might have done something horrible to you or someone you care about. Here are the ways you can hurt a narcissist;
1. Give your attention to someone else
A narcissist wants to be the center of attraction which is why they will hate to see you give their admiration and glory to another person, especially their competitors. To hurt a narcissist the most, you need to target their pride and bring it down. And by doing so, you need to make them feel less special.
Spending more time socializing with friends, such as going to parties and movies or spending time with their narcissistic friends, can hurt a narcissist emotionally. They begin to feel like you don’t care about them anymore like you used to.
2. Loving yourself more
When you focus on self-love and reduce the love and attention you give to a narcissist, it can cause them emotional pain. It also shows that you are better than them and you focus on what makes you happy.
In relationships, a narcissist isn’t always fair when it comes to their partners. They will want all their love and needs figured out, neglecting their partners’ needs.
But if you show that you are happier without them and pay less attention to them, they will feel hurt and heartbroken.
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3. Spending more time with their friends
To hurt a narcissist the most, you need to target who they are close to, which is often their friends. when you spend more time with their friends, they begin to experience jealousy and most importantly, heartbroken.
A narcissist doesn’t like it when you give your attention to someone else, especially their close friends. they want you all themselves and they would rather fight with the opposition than let themselves be miserable.
4. Creating your own happiness
When you show that you are happier and healthier without them, they will feel hurt and betrayed in their hearts. They want you to feed from their happiness and their ego which is why they provide you with the luxuries you need, just to keep you in check with them.
But when you show them that you don’t need them to be happy, and begin to improve on yourself and find what makes you happy, they will feel hurt.
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5. Putting on strong boundaries
Crossing people’s boundaries is what a narcissist knows best. They manipulate you to get what they want, which can include crossing your boundaries and making you feel hurt in the process.
But to put a stop to this and make them feel hurt, you need to stand your ground and put strong boundaries for them not to cross.
However, they might manipulate you by making you feel like you are hurting them or thinking they want the best for you, which is not true. They only want what is best for them and to satisfy their desires.
You must learn to say ‘no’ to a narcissist, no matter how good it may sound. When you start rejecting their offers, you start to build your self-esteem, and worth, which can hurt their pride.
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6. Stop caring about their needs
You can hurt a narcissist when you stop caring about them. They want you to prioritize their desires first over yours. But you can stop it.
When you stop caring about what they want and how they are doing, you make them reduce their ego and hurt them emotionally. That is why in a relationship, a narcissist is always in control. They are strong manipulators who let their partners do their bidding.
But if you have a narcissistic friend or partner who all they care about is themselves, stop caring about them! That is the best way you can definitely hurt a narcissist.
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7. Tell them you are not falling for their act
When you see what a narcissist is doing and you confront them by saying ‘I am not falling for it’, they will feel hurt and humiliated. Most times they get away with their evil deeds because we don’t openly disagree with them and challenge them.
The moment you tell them that you are not falling for their tricks which could be different manipulation tactics like gaslighting, love-bombing, etc. they will back off feeling disgraced and emotionally hurt.
8. Doing the opposite of what they want
We all know that a narcissist is concerned only about their desires. but the moment you start doing the opposite by not giving them everything they desire; they begin to feel hurt immediately. The idea is for you to stay in control and start making your own decisions, rather than for them to be bossing you around and making you lose sight of who you are. In other words, not doing what a narcissist wants can hurt them emotionally and increase your respect and worth.
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9. Making them feel humiliated in public
In public, a narcissist will want you to represent them in the ways they want, which could be dressing and walking in a certain way, talking to only the people they want you to. They turn you into their puppet which is so embarrassing.
But you could do otherwise. You can decide not to do what they tell you to do. In this case, you’re in control and setting your priorities straight. Doing this can make them feel hurt and humiliated.
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10. Drop all connections with them
Dropping all connections with a narcissist can make you gradually lose interest in them which can also hurt them in the process. When you stop receiving their calls, texts, or gifts. You begin to cut all connections with them, which can be the beginning of your happiness and joy.
A narcissist uses his power, resources, and words to keep you under their control. But when you show them that you don’t care anymore about what they can offer and discard everything they give you; they will surely get heartbroken.
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Conclusion on how to hurt a narcissist
In conclusion, effectively hurting a narcissist involves targeting their pride and ego, which are central to their sense of self-worth. By redirecting your attention to others, especially their competitors, you challenge their need for admiration.
Prioritizing self-love and creating your own happiness can diminish their influence over you. Engaging more with their friends can evoke jealousy and hurt. Establishing firm boundaries and saying ‘no’ can thwart their manipulative tactics.
Disregarding their needs and openly confronting their manipulative behaviors can significantly bruise their ego. Publicly defying their expectations and severing all connections ultimately dismantle their control and contribute to their emotional distress.
These strategies collectively empower you to hurt the feelings of a narcissist.
