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Leaving a narcissistic partner is no different from leaving a happy, healthy relationship. The only major difference in both relationships and why it might seem harder is because; a narcissist knows how to get away with words through – manipulations.
Another important thing to note is that you should not have any regrets about leaving a narcissist, as it is the best and healthiest decision for you.
Most people today live with a narcissist mostly because of their financial status which takes away their self-esteem and freedom. But only those with the courage and discipline can overcome a narcissist. Those who aren’t going to let anyone manipulate and take away their glory, just because of resources.
A narcissist wouldn’t want to let you go because they need you to keep their ego alive. They need to have their ego fed and receive the admiration and give them the admiration they deserve.
In this article, I will show you ways you can leave a narcissist in a relationship and become happy again.
But wait a second,
Do narcissists ever let go?
Yes, a narcissist can let you go, if you disappear, never call or text them and also never glorify them.
Unlike every other proud human being, a narcissist wouldn’t want to let you go because they need you to feed on their ego and make them feel admired. In a relationship, you are the closest to a narcissist and they will want you all to themselves.
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How do I leave a narcissist
If you are dealing with a narcissistic friend, husband, and wife; and you want them gone, then this article is for you. There are effective ways you can leave a narcissist and get rid of them permanently from your life.
Living with a narcissist is unhealthy in a relationship and can reduce your self-esteem and increase theirs because they want you to submit to them totally.
Here is how you can leave a narcissist;
1. Do not have a last moment with them
A narcissist is good at making you stay if they want to; this is a way of manipulating you to get what they want. Having your last moment could be spending your last night, trips, dinner, or movies together; which could be a negative decision to leave them.
Avoid spending those last precious moments you have in your head with them or else it might not work. Do not have an arrangement to leave them, just go at once. This is a way of saying, do not think about leaving a narcissist. It will help you leave a narcissist for good once and for all.
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2. Don’t tell them you’re leaving
Telling a narcissist you are leaving is a wrong chess move. As a matter of fact, you might not leave anymore because they are so good at persuasion and making you feel guilty about your decision. They’re going to make you feel like you will not see anyone like them anywhere. They will begin making promises to you that they will change and become better.
It’s best not to inform a narcissist that you’re planning to leave them, as it will make it easier to move on without their manipulative attempts to make you stay.
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3. Be two steps ahead of them
Do not take a narcissist as average for they are very good at making you less of yourself. And when leaving a narcissist you should be prepared for every possible outcome.
In case they know about you leaving them, prepare a backup plan; which could be telling your friends about it for support. If you cannot handle leaving them, maybe they are good in words; then talk to a friend who sees things differently from your own point of view, they will bring you back to the real world.
Narcissists are smart, I mean very smart. They can see betrayal from a mile away, especially from their partners. But they are humans, they all make mistakes. That is why you must prepare ahead by being two steps ahead of them.
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4. Setting straight boundaries
By setting boundaries you make a narcissist feel uncomfortable around you. They love to make you feel less about yourself and themselves as the price. But when you set your boundaries around them, by becoming decisive with your actions, complimenting yourself more, and not letting anyone take away your happiness; can be an effective way for a narcissist to leave you.
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5. Throwing away the gifts from them
Gifts are ways to remember people, which make you think of every good time, you ever had with them, forgetting the bad. Don’t forget, that gifts are what narcissist uses to manipulate you into their traps. They buy you very expensive pieces of jewelry, gadgets, cars, and other items, just to get you feeding on their glory.
The moment you decide to let everything go, you become better and stronger with yourself. You realize that you have been chained to their happiness and never found yours. Throwing away the gifts of a narcissist can be an effective way to leave them.
6. Entering incognito mode
Entering incognito or ghost mode can be a way to escape a narcissist. This means disappearing from all social networks and avoiding posting pictures with family for a while can help a narcissist leave you and move on with their life and also you leaving them.
When you disappear from the social media, they begin to forget you. As you all know, narcissists want to feel special, and by doing that, they continue feeding their ego. They have no other option but to move on.
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7. Have friends who motivate and support you
Leaving a narcissist might be difficult doing it alone because you will have to think of the luxury that goes with it. But when you have people who care and support you all the time, you will have no issues making your decision to leave them.
Being around your friends who see things differently and also have your best interest can be a way to leave a narcissist.
8. Reconnecting with your mind
Your mind is what a narcissist wants to take control of, and they do that by idolizing themselves in you and also feeding you with material things.
But when you reconnect with your mind, you begin to see things as they should be which is seeing yourself as the prize, not them. You could connect with your mind by listening to daily motivation and daily meditation. Reconnecting with your mind can open you to endless possibilities and make you see life differently away from a narcissist.
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9. You need to develop self-love again
Finding happiness outside a narcissist can be a way to leave a narcissist for good. People get lost in finding out who they really are because their narcissistic husband, wife, or friend has made them feel less of themselves.
When you start loving yourself again you will begin to experience the true meaning of happiness and peace.
There are different ways to show love to yourself;
- Having Self-awareness
- Prioritizing yourself
- Setting boundaries
- Showing gratitude to others
- Take care of your health
- Reading and improving your mind
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10. Disconnect with everything you had with them
Another way you can leave a narcissist is by cutting ties with everything and everyone around them. When you disconnect with them you begin to see yourself more often than when you are with them. Because when you’re with them you are deprived of loving and caring for yourself. They will want you to feed their ego and make them feel special about themselves.
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11. You need to seek professional help
Seeking professional guidance on dealing with a narcissist can help you leave a narcissist for good. You could see a mental health professional has more experience when it comes to narcissism abuse among people. They specialize in assisting individuals like you in removing a narcissist from your life and finding peace.
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Conclusion on leaving a narcissist
Leaving a narcissist can be a challenging and emotionally draining process, but it’s essential for your well-being. The key steps involve cutting off contact without warning, staying ahead of their manipulative tactics, and setting firm boundaries.
Avoid any final sentimental moments or announcing your departure, as these can give the narcissist a chance to manipulate you into staying. Dispose of any gifts that remind you of them to break emotional ties, and enter a period of social media silence to help them forget you.
Surround yourself with supportive friends and focus on rebuilding your self-love and self-awareness. Finally, consider seeking professional help to navigate the complexities of leaving a narcissist and to ensure a safe and permanent separation.
By taking these steps, you can reclaim your life and move towards a healthier, happier future.
