Simps are mostly regarded as failures and weak in today’s world. They are a definition of needy and desperate. They always want to leave to please girls, which is why they are being used and not appreciated or loved in return.
Consider simps to be a low version of a man. They are not the type of men that a woman wants in her life. Do you know what a woman wants in a man?
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Simp does not know how to please or put themselves first; instead, they will love to put the needs and wants of the person they admire and are sexually interested in. They lack all forms of respect for themselves because their desire to please the person they want wouldn’t let them be who they are.
They are willing to make all the sacrifices in the world to please and get the attention and love of the woman they desire at no limit. In the process of doing this, they lose themselves, making themselves feel worthless, weak, disrespected, unloved and unappreciated.
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Before I go into how to stop being a simp and a needy man, you will need to properly understand who a simp really is.
Who is a simp?
In the Gen Z world, a ‘simp’ is a person who is overly desperate and needy for attention and love from other women, in possession of affection and sexual feelings.
A man who knows his value (worth) will never simps for a woman.
Pro tips: Simps are mostly found in men who desperately seek the love and desires of a woman.
Simps are mostly known to be taken for granted, which is what most men don’t know. They think they are doing just fine, but they don’t know they are losing their value and recognition in a woman.
What causes someone to be a simp?
Having desperate feelings and desires for someone makes a person simp. A man usually simps for a woman because he has low self-esteem, low value, and lacks respect for himself.
A high-value man is a man who knows his worth and never compromises for anybody. They are everyone’s favorites that is because they are charming, self-respected, intelligent, and know exactly what they want, unlike the weak man who compromises for the likes and love of a woman.
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How to stop being a simp
Being a simp is a negative attraction for a woman, and you need to stop it if you are simping for a woman you love. A woman wouldn’t want to be with a simp, nor want a man with no love and respect for himself. They want a man who knows his worth and attracts women to him. Here are the ways to stop simping for someone;
1. Start believing in yourself
Most men who simp for girls are men with low confidence and determination. They are only determined to get the girl they are so obsessed with.
They find it hard to build and create importance for themselves. Instead, they dedicate their entire time and energy to obsessing about a girl who doesn’t feel the same way about him.
When you believe in what you input, you can do anything, whether it is talking to the most attractive girl in the room or setting standards for yourself. You can always do it; I mean, making those girls chase you instead of being their lap rat like a simp.
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2. Putting yourself first
Most men make the common mistake of putting the needs of a girl they like before their own. To avoid simping for a girl, you need to put yourself first. By that, I mean giving yourself more attention, saying no to certain things, taking care of your health, etc.
When you put yourself first before others, you will see that you will have more dominant power and believe in what you can do. So, my friends, put in the work, care for yourself, make sure you don’t do what you can’t, and stop paying attention to matters that will hurt you in the end.
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3. Stop appreciating her a lot
Most men fail at this point, which is glorifying her looks and her existence. Putting a woman on a pedestal is a wrong move as a man. You will be looked at differently instead of the man you came to love her for; you will be looked at as a ‘close friend.’
Acknowledging a woman’s look a lot of the time makes her feel superior to you, which is what a simp does all the time. You need to stand your ground, appreciate yourself more often, and be the one with the higher power instead of her.
4. Delete her from your life
The best way to stop being a simp is by deleting the ones you are obsessed with from your life. This could be deleting her from your phone, changing your environment if they do come there often, or regular meditation to have a clear focus on your life.
Deleting them from your life can be a helpful tool for self-improvement and adaptation. However, you cannot focus on becoming a better you if you are still in touch with the person you are attracted to or obsessed with.
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5. Learn to always say NO
There is power when you disagree with what people tell you. This helpful tip helps the girl you are desperate for in their place. This works properly when you see that the person you are always obsessed with is always accepted by men around her. When you say ‘no’ to what she says, it triggers her to look at you differently from the others.
Only the simps do whatever a woman says, even if it displeases them. Because they desperately seek their love and attention, they don’t mind. Only men of high value know what they want and do not tolerate just anyone.
6. Groom yourself to become attractive
To deal with a simp behavior, you need to self-develop yourself to become irresistibly attractive. Why are you attracted to her? It is because she has the quality you seek, right? If so, my friend, why do you seek to become better and attract her to you?
You can be better if you focus on grooming yourself. There are ways to allure people to you in different ways:
- Setting boundaries
- Looking dominant
- Walk slowly and observant
- Eating healthy foods
- Smell nice
- Walking with purpose
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7. Don’t be constantly available
Being constantly available for someone can result in a ‘see finish’ situation. It is important to know that ‘scarcity’ creates ‘importance.’ If you ever notice how celebrities never stay in the room for too long or don’t come to certain events, that is because they try to keep their presence scarce and maintain a high value for themselves.
As a man, you should avoid being too available for a girl, especially the ones you find interesting. They will not see you differently if you are always constantly around them.
8. Always please yourself
Simps are less valuable and unimportant because they don’t show love and respect for themselves as they do for others. People usually perceive them as disgusted and needy.
Putting yourself first is not selfish; it’s essential. When you prioritize your own needs and well-being, you show others your true value and worth. This self-assurance is far more attractive than appearing desperate for someone else’s approval.
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9. Daily exercises
Exercises like push-ups help exercise your mind and relieve you from failure. Push-ups will also help prevent you from simping for a girl because they help exercise the brain muscles, increase blood flow, and make you appear more confident.
Exercise is a powerful tool that can help you self-develop yourself and give you confidence in yourself. In other words, exercises are ways to stop you from simping for a girl.
10. Be confident when speaking and walking
Showing confidence when you speak may make you more recognized, and also walking confidently makes you attractive. Girls are attracted to men who show they have a purpose, and the best way to do this is to show your confidence when walking and speaking. This is a way to stop simping for a girl and improve your attractiveness towards her.
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11. Stop sharing everything you have
Sharing your personal information with people makes you feel seen and less of an option. But living a mysterious life creates attention and attracts people to you.
This also refers to sharing everything you have with the person you are most interested in. You cannot gain love and respect from someone with whom you don’t set your boundaries; instead, you will be dishonored, which can cause insecurities.
12. Stop calling and texting her all the time
Simps are always on the phone with the person they are deeply obsessed with. They don’t take a break from calling or texting, always prioritizing others’ needs over their own. When you call and text often, you show people that you don’t have anything to do with your time.
You make yourself overly available to them, which makes you look like a simp, of course. Stop texting and calling them often. Prioritize yourself first, and stop putting the needs of others first.
13. Build your personal space
Having your own space gives you self-awareness and time. When you build your space, you create more attention for yourself, you set boundaries, and you become whole. However, a simp will always consider putting others in their time, making them look cheap and easy to manipulate. Have time for yourself, learn to build your energy on positivity, and then you can withstand your weaknesses.
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14. Becoming an alpha male
Alpha males are not easily manipulated or used by anyone. They are always the attractive ones with dominant, successful, and leadership traits, unlike Simps, who is the opposite of an alpha who desperately seeks the attention and love of a girl. They represent the ideal qualities that a girl seeks in a partner and are rarely rejected under any circumstances.
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Conclusion on how to stop being a simp
To stop being a simp, you need to prioritize self-respect and personal growth over unhealthy obsessions. Start by believing in yourself and building your confidence, which helps shift your focus from obsessing over someone to valuing your own worth.
Put your own needs first, ensuring you maintain your health and well-being. Avoid over-appreciating her and placing her on a pedestal, as this diminishes your own value. Consider removing her from your life to facilitate self-improvement and clarity. Learn to assert yourself by saying no and setting boundaries, which will distinguish you from others who might also seek her attention. Groom yourself to become attractive, both physically and mentally, by maintaining good habits, practicing confidence, and creating a sense of scarcity about your presence.
Exercise regularly to boost your confidence and physical appearance. Stop oversharing and being constantly available, as maintaining some mystery and independence makes you more intriguing. Finally, build your personal space and work on becoming an alpha male, someone who is confident, assertive, and self-sufficient.
By following these steps, you can develop a healthier and more attractive persona, ultimately stopping the behavior that defines a simp.
